A Wife Of Noble Character, In this generation, many marriages have been of more harm than good to the people involved. Consequently leading to many divorces and separation cases we see today.
Frequently this has been blamed on the diverse views that men and women have about marriage. Some even get into marriage with the hopes of changing their spouses to suit their expectations.
This has led many to difficult unions because changing an adult’s beliefs or character is never an easy thing. Proverbs 31:10-28 Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?
She is more precious than rubies, and the crown to her husband. Her husband puts his trust in her, because she brings him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.
Happy marriages require selflessness, and not selfishness. Selfless people think less about themselves and more about others.
To Have A Powerful, Peaceful, And Enjoyable Home A Wife Must Recognize These Facts:
1. She Must Be Submissive
Ephesians 5:22-24 made it clear, Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church.
As the church submits to Christ, so also should wives submit to their husbands in everything. In everything, and not in something, though some women have chosen things they want to submit and one they would not.
It only takes a strong and brave woman to be submissive to her husband in everything as the Bible commanded. It does not mean that you don’t have an opinion on issues in the family.
To be submissive to a man is to focus on being his helper, lover, and supporter. Yielding to the will of your husband is a sign of complete trust and love and this can significantly improve your marriage.
As it is, men, believe that since they are created by God to be the head of their respective families. Their wives should respect and take their words to be final.
Whenever you as a wife position your self as a decision-maker in your home or begin to bring unhealthy competition on who heads the family and who makes decisions.
The man feels like the woman is taking over his place as the decision-maker of the family. Every man wants his place in the family to be respected no matter what.
2. Hard-working wives
Proverbs 31 Says that a Virtuous Woman uses her time wisely. She gives her time on that which is good. She works diligently and does not spend her time on those things that do not please the Lord.
No man likes a lazy wife. Many women have pushed their domestic duties to the maids including cooking for their husbands. They throw orders left, right, and center without doing any.
As long as a woman or a wife is in the house, she should plan on carrying out the house duties individually. The maid should only come in if it’s something she cannot do alone.
3. Physical maintenance
In as much as we know that inner beauty is good, Every woman must learn to at least maintain a charming physical appearance.
Most wives stopped caring about their physical appearances the moment they said ‘I do’. Understand that just like all men are visual creators, they are attracted to what they see.
4. Women with inner beauty
In the same way 1 Peter 3: 1–6 Encouraged wives to accept the authority of their husbands. So that even if they refuse to accept the Good News, they will be won over through their godly living.
Don’t only be concerned about the outer beauty of elegant hairstyles, precious and expensive jewelry or ornaments, or your beautiful clothes.
Rather, you should clothe yourselves with the beauty that comes from within. The beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit that doesn’t fade, which is so precious to God.
The holy women of old made themselves beautiful and attractive. Because they put their trust in God and also accepted the authority of their husbands.
For instance, Sarah obeyed her husband, Abraham, and called him my lord. A Virtuous Woman is a woman of worth, beauty, and godliness. With inner beauty that only comes from Christ.
She uses her creativity and sense of style to create beauty in her life and that of her family. Apart from the outward beauty that is first to be noticed.
It is clear that a woman’s inner beauty is like fuel in a marriage. The tender love and care in a woman lighten up a man’s world even when a marriage is going through difficult times.
Women who are positive thinkers always encourage and inspire their men to do exploit. And in return, they have better relationships with their men than those who are negative minded.
Men are likely to stick to women who will have positive thoughts when an issue arises. Not women who are always ready to jump to negative conclusions when they see their men with another woman.
6. Women who are accommodative
When a woman gets into a marriage, she should know that her spouse has a family and relatives. This means she will have to love, accommodate, and cooperate with them in one way or another.
Every man loves a woman who accommodates their family members as they are, without looking down upon them or making a complaint at every given opportunity.
No man will want to see his parents or relatives being intimidated or disrespected by his wife no matter what.
7. A woman who trusts and gives them Freedom
Trust is very vital to the success of every marriage. It is built when there is a strong and healthy relationship between Couples by being honest, truthful, and straightforward with each other.
Learn to give your husband some freedom for no man will like to marry a woman who constantly suspects and monitors every one of his moves and actions.
No man wants a wife who can’t trust him enough to actually let him be. He will want you to always trust that he will do the right thing at any particular time.
8. Your Undivided Attention
Marriages are surrounded by distractions, distractions like work, children, home activities, etc. They can draw us away from our spouses if care is not taking.
Most time we come back home tired and weak and still do the work at home. It’s important that you devote time to listen to your husband without interruption.
When you do this, he feels like he’s valued and respected. But when you don’t, he feels like his words don’t truly matter to you.
Many men believe it’s important for them to protect and provide for their families. So, let your husband know that you believe in his talents and skills and are supportive of him.
And also, that you appreciate how hard he works. Always thank him for how he takes care of you and the family. Tell him how good and caring he is, kiss him and tell him you really admire him as a person.
It’s important you learn how to give Unique Compliments to your spouse. The most significant thing you can do to your husband is to make him feel like a man and not a little boy.
10. Respect Him In All Things
Ephesians 5:33, Let every one of you so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. In addition to his will toward men, Paul says a wife should respect her husband.
If there is something men hate to take from their wives it is touching their ego and pride. They would rather sense the loss of loving feelings from their wives than to be disrespected by them.
Building a loving and memorable marriage starts with respect. One of the best ways a wife can show her husband that she loves and respects him is by actively listening to him when he talks, without any interruption.
You can also demonstrate respect by avoiding making negative comments about his thoughts and opinions. Being positive, thankful, and considerate of his wants and needs and never to be selfish.
11. Denial of marital rights [sex]
1 Corinthians 7:1-5, Encouraged husbands and wives not to deprive each other of their body except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time.
For the wife does not have authority over her own body, neither does the husband, but they admit their bodies to each other.
In this age, women find all excuses not to give their husbands the conjugal rights they deserve. They always claim to either be tired, sick, in a bad mood, too busy, or not having sexual desires.
Some women see it as a way of punishing their men. Not knowing that they are destroying their own homes by themselves with such an attitude, by pushing their husbands out of their homes.
Every man expects his partner to always be on standby any time they need their conjugal rights. And see all these excuses as rude and irresponsible.
These have caused so many problems in many homes, and have led some of our husbands into looking outside in order to satisfy their sexual needs.
Finally, Marriage can be Heaven, I mean heaven on earth if managed well according to God’s instruction. But if you fail to manage it well it can become hell for you.
Therefore, I urge you to build your home so as to enjoy it…